Comments on: Warming Up http://tease-and-denial.net/simple-dominance/364-warming-up/ Sensual Tease and Denial Wed, 07 Apr 2010 23:14:47 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Lady Julia http://tease-and-denial.net/simple-dominance/364-warming-up/comment-page-1/#comment-555 Lady Julia Wed, 03 Feb 2010 23:52:30 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=364#comment-555 Rumi, nicely done :) I very much enjoy evenings like that. The small things aren't really small, are they? Rumi, nicely done :) I very much enjoy evenings like that. The small things aren’t really small, are they?

]]> By: rumiboy http://tease-and-denial.net/simple-dominance/364-warming-up/comment-page-1/#comment-547 rumiboy Wed, 03 Feb 2010 04:47:27 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=364#comment-547 This evening, my wife was out helping our adult children at their new retail store. When I picked her up, I said how about chinese and she went from fatigued to a big smile. We ate together then got in bed to watch The Good Wife which she loves. She was always a Julianne Margulis fan from ER, and so am I. I found some very nice Aveeno oatmeal lotion, and spent most of the shows rubbing it into her feet. I haven't seen her feet in some time for one reason or another, so it was very pleasant visiting them again, and she enjoyed it very much. Thanks for the suggestions and gentle encouragement. This evening, my wife was out helping our adult children at their new retail store. When I picked her up, I said how about chinese and she went from fatigued to a big smile. We ate together then got in bed to watch The Good Wife which she loves. She was always a Julianne Margulis fan from ER, and so am I.

I found some very nice Aveeno oatmeal lotion, and spent most of the shows rubbing it into her feet. I haven’t seen her feet in some time for one reason or another, so it was very pleasant visiting them again, and she enjoyed it very much. Thanks for the suggestions and gentle encouragement.

]]> By: Lady Julia http://tease-and-denial.net/simple-dominance/364-warming-up/comment-page-1/#comment-543 Lady Julia Tue, 02 Feb 2010 17:05:20 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=364#comment-543 Poor Jason, personal life got in the way ;) Good for you! You did wonderfully with the romantic act. It's not about money spent for most women - it's about feeling special. Romance and romantic gestures remind us that you think we're worth a little effort. I also think it's sweet that your kids sat at dinner with you amid the candlelight. Children (in my opinion) need to see that Dad is willing to treat Mom extra special at times (and vice versa). I had a friend whose father always had him pull out his mother's chair at meal times, reminding him someday he'd have a lady of his own that he would want to do that for. When he was grown that was something that stuck with him. Perhaps it's not something everyone would want, but I like it when he does it for me. It takes almost no effort, but it does require enough thought on his part that he realizes I am special enough to him that he wants to do something like that for me. Poor Jason, personal life got in the way ;) Good for you!

You did wonderfully with the romantic act. It’s not about money spent for most women – it’s about feeling special. Romance and romantic gestures remind us that you think we’re worth a little effort.

I also think it’s sweet that your kids sat at dinner with you amid the candlelight. Children (in my opinion) need to see that Dad is willing to treat Mom extra special at times (and vice versa). I had a friend whose father always had him pull out his mother’s chair at meal times, reminding him someday he’d have a lady of his own that he would want to do that for. When he was grown that was something that stuck with him. Perhaps it’s not something everyone would want, but I like it when he does it for me. It takes almost no effort, but it does require enough thought on his part that he realizes I am special enough to him that he wants to do something like that for me.

]]> By: Lady Julia http://tease-and-denial.net/simple-dominance/364-warming-up/comment-page-1/#comment-541 Lady Julia Tue, 02 Feb 2010 16:56:09 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=364#comment-541 Rumi, you are doing so well! All of you are, truly :) I agree - you are the gift. A loving, caring partner is the best gift possible. Instead of focusing on buying something, this evening if possible, I'd like for you to do something romantic. Perhaps it might be something as simple as putting out candles and lighting them for dinner and/or turning on romantic music during that time. Running a bubblebath and lighting candles in the bathroom for her. Massage her feet while watching somehing she wants on TV. Sometimes it's not easy to think of little things to do but they really mean a lot. You don't need a grand gesture. For me, and I expect for a lot of women, the unexpected sweet things really touch us. Rumi, you are doing so well! All of you are, truly :)

I agree – you are the gift. A loving, caring partner is the best gift possible.

Instead of focusing on buying something, this evening if possible, I’d like for you to do something romantic. Perhaps it might be something as simple as putting out candles and lighting them for dinner and/or turning on romantic music during that time. Running a bubblebath and lighting candles in the bathroom for her. Massage her feet while watching somehing she wants on TV. Sometimes it’s not easy to think of little things to do but they really mean a lot. You don’t need a grand gesture. For me, and I expect for a lot of women, the unexpected sweet things really touch us.

]]> By: rumiboy http://tease-and-denial.net/simple-dominance/364-warming-up/comment-page-1/#comment-536 rumiboy Tue, 02 Feb 2010 09:56:18 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=364#comment-536 Day 6 for rumi, "Warming Up": I started the day by reading the assigned story, especially enjoying when she said "I intend to keep you mindlessly desperate, so you’ll do what I want.” Then on my knees to greet my companion for the day, the Jack of Spades. I left for work an hour later, feeling wonderfully mindlessly desperate, and tried all day to think of some romantic gift to pick up on the way home. Nothing came to me, so I returned home empty-handed. I spent the evening doing needful things around the house,in Her company the entire time. When she was ready for bed, we lay down together in our familiar spooning position, and watched Saturday Night Live together. My mind was racing trying to construct some grand gesture or speech, but we finally just fell asleep nestled and warm. In the morning, a voice from the past resolved my feelings that I had not fulfilled Lady Julia's instructions. It said "You are the gift: being there, really there, is worth more than any material representation of affection or love." Day 6 for rumi, “Warming Up”: I started the day by reading the assigned story, especially enjoying when she said “I intend to keep you mindlessly desperate, so you’ll do what I want.” Then on my knees to greet my companion for the day, the Jack of Spades. I left for work an hour later, feeling wonderfully mindlessly desperate, and tried all day to think of some romantic gift to pick up on the way home. Nothing came to me, so I returned home empty-handed.

I spent the evening doing needful things around the house,in Her company the entire time. When she was ready for bed, we lay down together in our familiar spooning position, and watched Saturday Night Live together. My mind was racing trying to construct some grand gesture or speech, but we finally just fell asleep nestled and warm. In the morning, a voice from the past resolved my feelings that I had not fulfilled Lady Julia’s instructions. It said “You are the gift: being there, really there, is worth more than any material representation of affection or love.”

]]> By: JSL http://tease-and-denial.net/simple-dominance/364-warming-up/comment-page-1/#comment-531 JSL Mon, 01 Feb 2010 16:54:21 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=364#comment-531 Lady Julia- I am sorry I was not able to post last night but my personal life got in the way of my experience. ;) Please forgive me. Anyway here is my post for the day that was day eleven of my experience. First off the story was quite a tease. I enjoyed it alot. I was on fire today and found my hands wandering almost constantly. It was kind of strange how involuntary it seemed to be. Perhaps it was because of my excitement about today's task. I sadly do not have a romantic bone in my body so I spent much of the day wracking my brain to think of what I could do for my wife. She has been really worried about her job and the economy lately. Things are not really "bouncing back" yet in the architecture field, at least not at the company she works for. They have been cutting jobs and salaries since last summer and it is still looking pretty grim. Because of this I felt that doing anything too extravagant would only add to her and my own financial anxiety, I decided to keep this kind of low key. I had to go into work for a few hours and on the way home I picked up take out for an Italian deli she likes and bought her a modest bouquet of flowers. I hadn't said anything to her about doing this so I think the surprise of it was probably the most romantic part for her. We ate by candle light, which the kids found very strange but it was fun. After the kids went to bed I gave my wife a back-rub and we talked about how she was feeling about our current situation. She seemed to be very pleased with the evening. I hope this was an acceptable romantic act. I resisted looking at my card until right before bed. It was the Jack of Spades so after performing my appointed duty I had a little trouble falling asleep. Not too mush trouble because I had been up late the night before but I did wake up at about three in the morning with a rather distracting hard-on. I wish I could remember what I was dreaming about. Anyway I am looking forward to listening to the Kidnapped Climax mp3 today. The Kidnapped Prelude is one of my favorites but because I was just starting the "Pleasing Feels So Good" experience when I was granted access to the Climax and was under orders to listen to others mp3s I have yet to listen to it. This experience is only effecting my personal life is positive ways. Please Oh Please! allow me to continue for another day. Thank You Lady Julia! Humbly Yours, Jason Lady Julia-
I am sorry I was not able to post last night but my personal life got in the way of my experience. ;) Please forgive me.
Anyway here is my post for the day that was day eleven of my experience.
First off the story was quite a tease. I enjoyed it alot.
I was on fire today and found my hands wandering almost constantly.
It was kind of strange how involuntary it seemed to be. Perhaps it was because of my excitement about today’s task. I sadly do not have a romantic bone in my body so I spent much of the day wracking my brain to think of what I could do for my wife. She has been really worried about her job and the economy lately. Things are not really “bouncing back” yet in the architecture field, at least not at the company she works for. They have been cutting jobs and salaries since last summer and it is still looking pretty grim. Because of this I felt that doing anything too extravagant would only add to her and my own financial anxiety, I decided to keep this kind of low key.
I had to go into work for a few hours and on the way home I picked up take out for an Italian deli she likes and bought her a modest bouquet of flowers. I hadn’t said anything to her about doing this so I think the surprise of it was probably the most romantic part for her. We ate by candle light, which the kids found very strange but it was fun. After the kids went to bed I gave my wife a back-rub and we talked about how she was feeling about our current situation. She seemed to be very pleased with the evening. I hope this was an acceptable romantic act.
I resisted looking at my card until right before bed. It was the Jack of Spades so after performing my appointed duty I had a little trouble falling asleep. Not too mush trouble because I had been up late the night before but I did wake up at about three in the morning with a rather distracting hard-on. I wish I could remember what I was dreaming about.
Anyway I am looking forward to listening to the Kidnapped Climax mp3 today. The Kidnapped Prelude is one of my favorites but because I was just starting the “Pleasing Feels So Good” experience when I was granted access to the Climax and was under orders to listen to others mp3s I have yet to listen to it.
This experience is only effecting my personal life is positive ways.
Please Oh Please! allow me to continue for another day.
Thank You Lady Julia!
Humbly Yours,
Jason

]]> By: Kaysnd Steel http://tease-and-denial.net/simple-dominance/364-warming-up/comment-page-1/#comment-529 Kaysnd Steel Mon, 01 Feb 2010 03:42:31 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=364#comment-529 This is day 6 of my experience. I awoke, kneeled and drew my card and put it in the pocket of my robe. My legs are getting much more flexible. Sunday morning - yeah. I made blueberry pancakes for my wife after letting her sleep in. Before noon, I rubbed her back and let her have an afternoon nap after I cleaned up the midday meal dishes. She was wondering what I was up to when I started dinner and told her to relax while I put the final touch on dessert. My reward? Knowing she had a good day and her curiosity. I told her I was energized and focussed today (true), relaxed (true), enjoying the sunny day in the middle of winter (true). I uncovered the Jack of clubs tonight and knelt, came to the brink and recovered. After that I found a very satisfying knowing I had obeyed and was feeling that I had made my wife somewhat perplexed in my attitude today - I told her anytime I can see the sun in the middle of winter and have a few more minutes of daylight each day can have an enormous effect on me. Just enjoy - and she did. Knowing that I was mentally controlled by the Jack of Clubs and actually obeying gave me a sense of release. This has been an amazing experience and please allow me to continue. I am doing nothing in this experience that interferes with my personal or professional life. Be assured that I hold my relationship with my wife and the fact that I have a job are very dear to my heart. This is day 6 of my experience.

I awoke, kneeled and drew my card and put it in the pocket of my robe. My legs are getting much more flexible.

Sunday morning – yeah.

I made blueberry pancakes for my wife after letting her sleep in. Before noon, I rubbed her back and let her have an afternoon nap after I cleaned up the midday meal dishes.

She was wondering what I was up to when I started dinner and told her to relax while I put the final touch on dessert. My reward? Knowing she had a good day and her curiosity. I told her I was energized and focussed today (true), relaxed (true), enjoying the sunny day in the middle of winter (true).

I uncovered the Jack of clubs tonight and knelt, came to the brink and recovered. After that I found a very satisfying knowing I had obeyed and was feeling that I had made my wife somewhat perplexed in my attitude today – I told her anytime I can see the sun in the middle of winter and have a few more minutes of daylight each day can have an enormous effect on me. Just enjoy – and she did.

Knowing that I was mentally controlled by the Jack of Clubs and actually obeying gave me a sense of release. This has been an amazing experience and please allow me to continue.

I am doing nothing in this experience that interferes with my personal or professional life. Be assured that I hold my relationship with my wife and the fact that I have a job are very dear to my heart.

]]> By: Lady Julia http://tease-and-denial.net/simple-dominance/364-warming-up/comment-page-1/#comment-522 Lady Julia Sun, 31 Jan 2010 21:34:38 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=364#comment-522 Mike, I have smiled so many times the last two and a half weeks that people think I'm up to something ;) It's been a difficult week but wow, has it been made so, SO much nicer by having the awareness that all of you were doing this. I looked forward every day (and still do) to seeing how you all are feeling and what new things you managed to draw from what you were doing. You are a very good boy. Seriously. Thank you. Mike, I have smiled so many times the last two and a half weeks that people think I’m up to something ;) It’s been a difficult week but wow, has it been made so, SO much nicer by having the awareness that all of you were doing this. I looked forward every day (and still do) to seeing how you all are feeling and what new things you managed to draw from what you were doing.

You are a very good boy. Seriously.

Thank you.

]]> By: Lady Julia http://tease-and-denial.net/simple-dominance/364-warming-up/comment-page-1/#comment-521 Lady Julia Sun, 31 Jan 2010 21:31:52 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=364#comment-521 Jay, that is so nice! Yes, you may continue one more day :) I cannot believe it's been two weeks for you. I've really enjoyed doing this with you. Your Budding D is a lucky lady :) <i>But I think a black tie ball and an overnight stay at the Ritz is about as romantic as it gets :-)</i> Color me envious :) Jay, that is so nice! Yes, you may continue one more day :) I cannot believe it’s been two weeks for you.

I’ve really enjoyed doing this with you. Your Budding D is a lucky lady :)

But I think a black tie ball and an overnight stay at the Ritz is about as romantic as it gets :-)

Color me envious :)

]]> By: Jay http://tease-and-denial.net/simple-dominance/364-warming-up/comment-page-1/#comment-518 Jay Sun, 31 Jan 2010 17:37:11 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=364#comment-518 Lady Julia, Today is Day13 of my experience. I am fine and getting ready to leave "Budding D" in a few hours to head off to site. We are still at the hotel; we have a late check out. This morning we awoke late, showered and had breakfast in the restaurant before returning to bed :-) I am not sure *technically* who *initiated* what followed..... I am typing this instead of updating my contacts on my new iPhone - that can wait. "Budding D" is asleep in bed - like an angel - she has been reading her latest book and has dozed off. I booked the room at the hotel *before* reading your post to do something uber romantic. So I am not sure whether it doesn't count or whether it counts double. But I think a black tie ball and an overnight stay at the Ritz is about as romantic as it gets :-) Please may I continue to obey your instructions just *one* last day? Your obedient servant :-) Jay Lady Julia,

Today is Day13 of my experience.
I am fine and getting ready to leave “Budding D” in a few hours to head off to site. We are still at the hotel; we have a late check out.

This morning we awoke late, showered and had breakfast in the restaurant before returning to bed :-)
I am not sure *technically* who *initiated* what followed…..

I am typing this instead of updating my contacts on my new iPhone – that can wait. “Budding D” is asleep in bed – like an angel – she has been reading her latest book and has dozed off.

I booked the room at the hotel *before* reading your post to do something uber romantic. So I am not sure whether it doesn’t count or whether it counts double. But I think a black tie ball and an overnight stay at the Ritz is about as romantic as it gets :-)

Please may I continue to obey your instructions just *one* last day?
Your obedient servant :-)
Jay

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