On Wednesday I will begin the Queen of Hearts activity. If you will be participating, you’ll need to purchase a new deck of cards. Yes, I don’t care if you have 30 decks of cards, this one is to be for me and only for me. You can do that for me, can’t you? :) (If you recently submitted to this activity in TCOD, you may use the deck you purchased for me then.)
I’ll be posting more directions tomorrow, but for now I would like to pose a few questions that you will respond to here in the comments section. How important is tease and denial to you? Which do you find most exciting – short term or long term denial? What is the longest period of time you have been denied or denied yourself?
I’m so looking forward to toying with you ;)
~ Lady Julia
How important is tease and denial to you? I would say it is very important. It really turns up the heat and excitement.
Which do you find most exciting – short term or long term denial? I prefer the short term. In the short term, say a few hours to a few days, things stay really exciting, and my mind and body crave the teasing and the release more and more. After a week things start to settle down a bit. Of course, the only time I went that long, there was no teasing to go with the denial, so…
What is the longest period of time you have been denied or denied yourself? 2 weeks
I missed the opportunity to participate in the “Queen of Hearts” activity in TCOD but when I recently saw it I was intrigued and followed the instructions including purchasing a deck of cards that I still have. I did not post on that occasion as I felt it was too late but I left my release to chance and your instructions for about two weeks.
At the start I drew the Queen of Hearts three times in a row! And then not at all for the rest of the nearly two weeks…I got to dread the Queen of Clubs…then when I drew a Jack…I am sorry to admit I could no longer hold out.
I have asked at the little kiosk on site for a deck of cards but they did not have them for sale. If you would like me to buy another deck, I can do so on Friday but would like to request to use the one I have until then.
Again, hoping that is OK, I will answer your questions.
Tease and denial has become more important to me as learn to accept the sexual wishes of my “budding D” wife. Where once I would have been “grumpy” at her rejection, I now accept it as her wishes and I look at it as a period of denial. Unguided, I am not very good at not masturbating :-) But I am very aware that after release, I have a tendency to not behave as well as I should or would like to…..I am working on that.
The longest I have managed to deny myself is not much longer than a week and if teasing myself is involved then somewhat less.
OOps sorry, the second one has the smiley the first has a square ??
Yes, you may use the deck you purchased before, Jay.
I’m glad to hear you’re working on being more inclined to behave after release. After all, it isn’t really about your release for you, is it? It’s about your relationship with your lady. I’m sure she is pleased when you give her your very best.
Thanks for responding :) You’ve given me Evil Cowgirl ideas…
My only experience with tease and denial was the the thing you did with the tie in TCOD. I enjoyed it very much. In general I think a few days to a week work for me. But I have very little data to go on.
Oh the Evil Cowgirl…..gulp!
Lady Julia-
I would love to participate in this experience once I have finished the Pleasing Feels So Good experience. I think I would love to participate in any experience you put forth from now on. Will you allow me to take part?
Please oh please let me feel more of your control.
With regards to your question I would have to that tease and denial has not been very important to me in the past but after have participated in one of your experiences I find the idea of it very exciting now. I find the idea of long term denial more exciting simply because it is a more difficult task. It worries me a little. I don’t believe I have ever consciously denied myself nor have I directly been denied.
I hope that my participation in Your Pleasing… experience has been pleasing enough for you to grant me admission to this experience.
Thank You,
Jason
Jason, thank you for responding to my questions :) Of course you may participate. Please wait until you finish the Pleasure activity and then let me know when you will begin this one.
Since you’ve never found tease and denial very important before, I’m quite interested to see how this activity unfolds for you.