Comments on: Playing With The Queen of Hearts http://tease-and-denial.net/simple-dominance/120-playing-with-the-queen-of-hearts/ Sensual Tease and Denial Wed, 07 Apr 2010 23:14:47 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: The Silken Web » Blog Archive » Pleasing Feels So Very Good http://tease-and-denial.net/simple-dominance/120-playing-with-the-queen-of-hearts/comment-page-1/#comment-273 The Silken Web » Blog Archive » Pleasing Feels So Very Good Tue, 12 Jan 2010 00:52:12 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=120#comment-273 [...] with some of you that will span several days.  If you are planning on participating in the “Queen of Hearts” activity, you’ll need to complete this one first.  I’ll accept the delay [...] [...] with some of you that will span several days.  If you are planning on participating in the “Queen of Hearts” activity, you’ll need to complete this one first.  I’ll accept the delay [...]

]]> By: Lady Julia http://tease-and-denial.net/simple-dominance/120-playing-with-the-queen-of-hearts/comment-page-1/#comment-223 Lady Julia Tue, 15 Dec 2009 01:40:08 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=120#comment-223 Les, you said, "You say its not how you control that matters its being in control. You say making your boy desire to do what you want him to do thrills you. My Lady are these not opposing ideas. Or perhaps it is the Ying and Yang, yes I may. No I may not. " I don't think they are opposing. So many people say you have to dominate or control a certain way. If he does what I want, then I am in control. It doesn't really matter *how* I take him to a place where he surrenders to my control. I simply choose to control in a soft, persuasive way that makes us both happy. Les, you said, “You say its not how you control that matters its being in control. You say making your boy desire to do what you want him to do thrills you. My Lady are these not opposing ideas. Or perhaps it is the Ying and Yang, yes I may. No I may not. ”

I don’t think they are opposing. So many people say you have to dominate or control a certain way. If he does what I want, then I am in control. It doesn’t really matter *how* I take him to a place where he surrenders to my control. I simply choose to control in a soft, persuasive way that makes us both happy.

]]> By: Lady Julia http://tease-and-denial.net/simple-dominance/120-playing-with-the-queen-of-hearts/comment-page-1/#comment-222 Lady Julia Tue, 15 Dec 2009 01:36:35 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=120#comment-222 Rumiboy, thank you for sharing your first experience with the Queen of Hearts. You followed the cards during a time when I was not really online so I was not here to comment. I do appreciate that you tried it and that you left your thoughts here for me (and others) to read. Rumiboy, thank you for sharing your first experience with the Queen of Hearts. You followed the cards during a time when I was not really online so I was not here to comment. I do appreciate that you tried it and that you left your thoughts here for me (and others) to read.

]]> By: Les  M http://tease-and-denial.net/simple-dominance/120-playing-with-the-queen-of-hearts/comment-page-1/#comment-216 Les  M Thu, 03 Dec 2009 02:11:37 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=120#comment-216 Final day final post TCOD day 3 I have re read some of you blogs and posts during these days. If my quotes are incorrect I hope the spirit isn’t. Please Lady Julia when we mere mortals say something that may be taken two ways. We rarely mean it to hurt, always we try to please. You say its not how you control that matters its being in control. You say making your boy desire to do what you want him to do thrills you. My Lady are these not opposing ideas. Or perhaps it is the Ying and Yang, yes I may. No I may not. Perhaps that is what made this tease so powerful. Neither you nor I really knew the result that or this scenario. Or the way the play would unfold. But no your smile is all that really counted. That always was prize enough. The cards were but minor players. The imagination was and always will be the shining star. Thank you My Lady for bringing my mind out to play. Thank you for having me… Les Final day final post TCOD day 3

I have re read some of you blogs and posts during these days.

If my quotes are incorrect I hope the spirit isn’t.
Please Lady Julia when we mere mortals say something that may be taken two ways.
We rarely mean it to hurt, always we try to please.

You say its not how you control that matters its being in control.
You say making your boy desire to do what you want him to do thrills you.

My Lady are these not opposing ideas.
Or perhaps it is the Ying and Yang, yes I may. No I may not.

Perhaps that is what made this tease so powerful.

Neither you nor I really knew the result that or this scenario.
Or the way the play would unfold.

But no your smile is all that really counted.
That always was prize enough.

The cards were but minor players.

The imagination was and always will be the shining star.
Thank you My Lady for bringing my mind out to play.
Thank you for having me…
Les

]]> By: walt http://tease-and-denial.net/simple-dominance/120-playing-with-the-queen-of-hearts/comment-page-1/#comment-203 walt Sun, 22 Nov 2009 23:35:01 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=120#comment-203 thank YOu Lady Julia i will look forward to this experiment...P.S. it is good to see You have returned thank YOu Lady Julia i will look forward to this experiment…P.S. it is good to see You have returned

]]> By: rumiboy http://tease-and-denial.net/simple-dominance/120-playing-with-the-queen-of-hearts/comment-page-1/#comment-119 rumiboy Mon, 17 Aug 2009 23:27:23 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=120#comment-119 Seventh Day: Queen of Spades. I was not a good boy. I woke up and greeted my Queen, but after about 30 minutes I decided to stop the game, and stroked my way to a release. For the rest of the day, I had these guilty feelings. A few moments ago I gave up the guilt and now I acknowledge that I made an agreement and didn't keep it. I can't say whether I feel good or bad about this. The feeling of being controlled all week was really exciting at times, and made me feel quite safe. For some reason the story of Adam and Eve popped into my mind, and I got that what that tale is really about is trust. The difference here is I entered the garden by choice, and now I feel like I am outside, and really want to come back in. Lady Julia, thank you for giving me this chance to experience what submission feels like, if only for a week. Rumi said something once about words getting in the way of truth, and so I go on and on because the truth is, it felt so good to surrender my choice about orgasm, but also was very frightening at times. Trying to explain it to myself, trying to understand it is really just a way of avoiding that fear, always was and maybe always will be. Seventh Day: Queen of Spades. I was not a good boy. I woke up and greeted my Queen, but after about 30 minutes I decided to stop the game, and stroked my way to a release. For the rest of the day, I had these guilty feelings. A few moments ago I gave up the guilt and now I acknowledge that I made an agreement and didn’t keep it. I can’t say whether I feel good or bad about this. The feeling of being controlled all week was really exciting at times, and made me feel quite safe. For some reason the story of Adam and Eve popped into my mind, and I got that what that tale is really about is trust. The difference here is I entered the garden by choice, and now I feel like I am outside, and really want to come back in. Lady Julia, thank you for giving me this chance to experience what submission feels like, if only for a week. Rumi said something once about words getting in the way of truth, and so I go on and on because the truth is, it felt so good to surrender my choice about orgasm, but also was very frightening at times. Trying to explain it to myself, trying to understand it is really just a way of avoiding that fear, always was and maybe always will be.

]]> By: rumiboy http://tease-and-denial.net/simple-dominance/120-playing-with-the-queen-of-hearts/comment-page-1/#comment-117 rumiboy Sun, 16 Aug 2009 11:43:05 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=120#comment-117 Sixth day: Jack of Spades. One day to go. My mind became a virtual jukebox, but one on which every song seemed to be saying "All Dressed Up With Nowhere to Go." As I got near the edge in the morning, I had a moment where I felt like I was outside my body, like my hand and cock belonged to someone else. It was a disorienting, but strangely very excitiing sensation. Sixth day: Jack of Spades. One day to go. My mind became a virtual jukebox, but one on which every song seemed to be saying “All Dressed Up With Nowhere to Go.” As I got near the edge in the morning, I had a moment where I felt like I was outside my body, like my hand and cock belonged to someone else. It was a disorienting, but strangely very excitiing sensation.

]]> By: rumiboy http://tease-and-denial.net/simple-dominance/120-playing-with-the-queen-of-hearts/comment-page-1/#comment-116 rumiboy Sat, 15 Aug 2009 08:28:50 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=120#comment-116 Fifth day: Jack of Diamonds: Touching without release is a completely new experience for me. A day with the Queens of Denial is so much easier. I learned the word "edging" somewhere recently, and I have certainly been "on edge" all day. Thought about my Lady before beginning as suggested, and pray she will appear tomorrow. I mean pray like beg some unseen force to bring her to the top of the deck and be there to release me when I wake up tomorrow morning. Fifth day: Jack of Diamonds: Touching without release is a completely new experience for me. A day with the Queens of Denial is so much easier. I learned the word “edging” somewhere recently, and I have certainly been “on edge” all day. Thought about my Lady before beginning as suggested, and pray she will appear tomorrow. I mean pray like beg some unseen force to bring her to the top of the deck and be there to release me when I wake up tomorrow morning.

]]> By: rumiboy http://tease-and-denial.net/simple-dominance/120-playing-with-the-queen-of-hearts/comment-page-1/#comment-115 rumiboy Fri, 14 Aug 2009 09:29:40 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=120#comment-115 Fourth day: Queen of Spades: Again? half way through the day i managed to not think about the way my entire skin felt like it was tingling and giving off sparks. that lasted about 30 seconds. Then I started thinking about all the women in my life, and especially the two that are most deeply imbedded in my memories, my mother and Sister T, the mother superior of my elementary school, and the true Queen of Spades. Submitting to Sister T, I learned the catechism of denial and sublimation. I thought I had rejected all that long ago, but here I was full of energy and getting stuff done for the women in my life today, and feeling so good about it, except when I was feeling so pissed off that I started playing this game! Fourth day: Queen of Spades: Again? half way through the day i managed to not think about the way my entire skin felt like it was tingling and giving off sparks. that lasted about 30 seconds. Then I started thinking about all the women in my life, and especially the two that are most deeply imbedded in my memories, my mother and Sister T, the mother superior of my elementary school, and the true Queen of Spades. Submitting to Sister T, I learned the catechism of denial and sublimation. I thought I had rejected all that long ago, but here I was full of energy and getting stuff done for the women in my life today, and feeling so good about it, except when I was feeling so pissed off that I started playing this game!

]]> By: rumiboy http://tease-and-denial.net/simple-dominance/120-playing-with-the-queen-of-hearts/comment-page-1/#comment-114 rumiboy Thu, 13 Aug 2009 10:45:15 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=120#comment-114 Third day: Jack of Diamonds. Having permission to touch made this seem like an easy task, but it was hard. At first I grumped and said I wouldn't touch myself at all. That rebellion lasted long enough for me to make my coffee and sit down at the computer. An hour later I stopped at the edge, something I haven't done since, well, yesterday! But before that, not in a long time. At work, I thought it would be hard to focus but actually found I was better organized than usual. Third day: Jack of Diamonds. Having permission to touch made this seem like an easy task, but it was hard. At first I grumped and said I wouldn’t touch myself at all. That rebellion lasted long enough for me to make my coffee and sit down at the computer. An hour later I stopped at the edge, something I haven’t done since, well, yesterday! But before that, not in a long time. At work, I thought it would be hard to focus but actually found I was better organized than usual.

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