The Silken Tease

On the blog, Pure Liquid Kink, the author calls to question claims that men are more attentive when locked in a chastity device.  This assertion, he says, is “bullshit”.

I’ve long wondered about this premise.  I’m not a submissive man so I freely admit that I cannot precisely understand what goes on in the minds of those who are, however I’ve never understood why attentiveness wasn’t simply something one made a conscious effort to offer.

So I’m asking – do you agree with the author?  Why, why not?

I received a comment on my main blog from a woman who said she was new to the idea of dominating her partner and wanted a suggestion for an uncomplicated yet powerful ritual that she could establish.

The Femdom ritual is amazingly strong and exciting .  The act draws the submissive’s mind to a place established by his Domme while reinforcing her control over him and his submission to her.   If established to do so, these rituals can be observed and the reminder of that bond can be given whether the Domme is present or not.  Clearly this would work well if the couple is not together every day.  And.. it’s just fun :)

Many people have elaborate rituals that include a lot of really kinky things.  When I read about them, I always find them very exciting, but they are a bit complicated in the really busy world that is my life.  It’s easier for me and it seems more powerful for him if I tie the ritual to an every day activity like showering or bathing.

Imagine giving or being given these instructions:

Daily, I want you to stand naked in front of a mirror and allow your eyes to wander over your body.  Consider how much I love your body,  touching it and teasing it, using it in whatever way I see fit because it’s mine – mine because you’ve surrendered control of your body’s sexual pleasure to me.  See what I see.. a sexy, strong man who allows me to use him as my erotic toy.

After a few moments contemplation, step into the bath or shower, turn on the water, soap up your hands and run them over the body that I control.  Imagine how wonderful it feels for me to control that body.. to control your cock… yes, then touch your cock, tease it as I would if I were there… know how much I love controlling your pleasuring… then when you are well and truly excited, stop.

Mmm… such lovely tease and denial on a daily basis.  Just thinking about it now excites me so much – knowing how deeply he has surrendered, how much I love his body, and how eager I am to touch and tease him in person.

I wonder how long it would be before he was begging for release? Smiles – it certainly wouldn’t take long before I was ordering him to his knees…

~ Lady Julia

Tease and denial have long been exciting to me.  Enticing a man, exciting him so much that he can barely refrain from coming, then ordering him to stop – yum.  The look on his face is always priceless :)

On this site I will discuss various ideas I have for tease, denial, and orgasm control and will use it to do a bit of interactive education with some of my readers ;)   If you’re interested in feeling that delicious sense of control, it’s up to you to prove to me that you deserve it…

Soft kiss on the cheek,
Lady Julia