Comments on: Excessive Orgasm Denial Self-Defeating? http://tease-and-denial.net/male-submission/35-excessive-orgasm-denial-self-defeatin/ Sensual Tease and Denial Wed, 07 Apr 2010 23:14:47 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Arafin http://tease-and-denial.net/male-submission/35-excessive-orgasm-denial-self-defeatin/comment-page-1/#comment-44 Arafin Mon, 06 Jul 2009 07:20:56 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=35#comment-44 Aside from all other factors, I think that the emotional effect of the denial would depend upon the motivation and method of control used by the dominant. If orgasm denial begins to be seen as “self defeating” then perhaps it’s time for a change of direction with that denial. Say, moving from a physical chastity device to hypnotic control, or from hypnotic control to simple honor-system mindfulness, or from mindful obedience to the denial being part of a larger task. Sometimes spicing things up with new ideas can make an old recipe more delicious than ever. Arafin Aside from all other factors, I think that the emotional effect of the denial would depend upon the motivation and method of control used by the dominant. If orgasm denial begins to be seen as “self defeating” then perhaps it’s time for a change of direction with that denial. Say, moving from a physical chastity device to hypnotic control, or from hypnotic control to simple honor-system mindfulness, or from mindful obedience to the denial being part of a larger task. Sometimes spicing things up with new ideas can make an old recipe more delicious than ever.

Arafin

]]> By: web http://tease-and-denial.net/male-submission/35-excessive-orgasm-denial-self-defeatin/comment-page-1/#comment-42 web Sat, 04 Jul 2009 05:23:33 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=35#comment-42 I think that excessive denial, without the constant teasing would lead to diminishing returns, as it were. Especially as the length of the denial became longer and longer. However, with the teasing, touching and playing with a trusted loving partner, I think the excitement would build for quite a long period. I think that excessive denial, without the constant teasing would lead to diminishing returns, as it were. Especially as the length of the denial became longer and longer. However, with the teasing, touching and playing with a trusted loving partner, I think the excitement would build for quite a long period.

]]> By: Lady Julia http://tease-and-denial.net/male-submission/35-excessive-orgasm-denial-self-defeatin/comment-page-1/#comment-32 Lady Julia Wed, 01 Jul 2009 12:41:33 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=35#comment-32 GreyOwl, Hugs Lady Julia GreyOwl,

Hugs

Lady Julia

]]> By: GreyOwl http://tease-and-denial.net/male-submission/35-excessive-orgasm-denial-self-defeatin/comment-page-1/#comment-28 GreyOwl Wed, 01 Jul 2009 03:07:32 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=35#comment-28 I also would agree... after 5 years in a loveless relationship, who cares. My love life consists of an occasional escape to your blog and a few moments of a fantasy relationship with the someone as special as you... and memories of younger days, foolish and as inexperienced as I was. If only ... Thank you for all you are Lady Julia... I also would agree… after 5 years in a loveless relationship, who cares. My love life consists of an occasional escape to your blog and a few moments of a fantasy relationship with the someone as special as you… and memories of younger days, foolish and as inexperienced as I was. If only …

Thank you for all you are Lady Julia…

]]> By: Chad http://tease-and-denial.net/male-submission/35-excessive-orgasm-denial-self-defeatin/comment-page-1/#comment-24 Chad Tue, 30 Jun 2009 04:33:01 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=35#comment-24 Changing things up is real important otherwise people get real bored. I really don't think people stay locked up as long as they say they do. If they do I think their junk must not work. Changing things up is real important otherwise people get real bored. I really don’t think people stay locked up as long as they say they do. If they do I think their junk must not work.

]]> By: mikecb http://tease-and-denial.net/male-submission/35-excessive-orgasm-denial-self-defeatin/comment-page-1/#comment-22 mikecb Mon, 29 Jun 2009 17:09:13 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=35#comment-22 I agree. I've been dabbling with self-imposed long term denial for over a year. I've done a 3 month stint, a 4 month, a 5 month.. Between those periods, I enjoyed masturbating daily, or more. However, it's now quite easy for me to just "stop". I did again a few weeks ago, without difficulty. I think masturbation is just an addiction, and can be broken like any other. These days, I "crave" orgasms, but I don't "need" them. Of course, my wife isn't giving me daily teasing. That could well make the difference! lol mike I agree. I’ve been dabbling with self-imposed long term denial for over a year. I’ve done a 3 month stint, a 4 month, a 5 month.. Between those periods, I enjoyed masturbating daily, or more. However, it’s now quite easy for me to just “stop”. I did again a few weeks ago, without difficulty.

I think masturbation is just an addiction, and can be broken like any other. These days, I “crave” orgasms, but I don’t “need” them. Of course, my wife isn’t giving me daily teasing. That could well make the difference! lol

mike

]]> By: jmred http://tease-and-denial.net/male-submission/35-excessive-orgasm-denial-self-defeatin/comment-page-1/#comment-21 jmred Mon, 29 Jun 2009 02:29:52 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=35#comment-21 I would agree with this. I would go further and say that a great orgasm after a quality tease makes the man more submissive. If it's good enough it lessens the refractory period greatly and I am still feeling submissive and somewhat ready to go and looking forward to the next time almost immediately. I would agree with this. I would go further and say that a great orgasm after a quality tease makes the man more submissive. If it’s good enough it lessens the refractory period greatly and I am still feeling submissive and somewhat ready to go and looking forward to the next time almost immediately.

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