Excessive Orgasm Denial Self-Defeating?

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Would you agree or disagree with the following:

Enoch Soames, “Excessive orgasm denial is self-defeating: after a certain period of time the man becomes habituated and the loss of orgasms has minimal emotional effect.”

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7 Responses to “Excessive Orgasm Denial Self-Defeating?”

  1. jmred Says: June 28th, 2009 at 8:29 pm

    I would agree with this. I would go further and say that a great orgasm after a quality tease makes the man more submissive. If it’s good enough it lessens the refractory period greatly and I am still feeling submissive and somewhat ready to go and looking forward to the next time almost immediately.

  2. mikecb Says: June 29th, 2009 at 12:09 pm

    I agree. I’ve been dabbling with self-imposed long term denial for over a year. I’ve done a 3 month stint, a 4 month, a 5 month.. Between those periods, I enjoyed masturbating daily, or more. However, it’s now quite easy for me to just “stop”. I did again a few weeks ago, without difficulty.

    I think masturbation is just an addiction, and can be broken like any other. These days, I “crave” orgasms, but I don’t “need” them. Of course, my wife isn’t giving me daily teasing. That could well make the difference! lol

    mike

  3. Chad Says: June 29th, 2009 at 11:33 pm

    Changing things up is real important otherwise people get real bored. I really don’t think people stay locked up as long as they say they do. If they do I think their junk must not work.

  4. GreyOwl Says: June 30th, 2009 at 10:07 pm

    I also would agree… after 5 years in a loveless relationship, who cares. My love life consists of an occasional escape to your blog and a few moments of a fantasy relationship with the someone as special as you… and memories of younger days, foolish and as inexperienced as I was. If only …

    Thank you for all you are Lady Julia…

  5. Lady Julia Says: July 1st, 2009 at 7:41 am

    GreyOwl,

    Hugs

    Lady Julia

  6. web Says: July 4th, 2009 at 12:23 am

    I think that excessive denial, without the constant teasing would lead to diminishing returns, as it were. Especially as the length of the denial became longer and longer. However, with the teasing, touching and playing with a trusted loving partner, I think the excitement would build for quite a long period.

  7. Arafin Says: July 6th, 2009 at 2:20 am

    Aside from all other factors, I think that the emotional effect of the denial would depend upon the motivation and method of control used by the dominant. If orgasm denial begins to be seen as “self defeating” then perhaps it’s time for a change of direction with that denial. Say, moving from a physical chastity device to hypnotic control, or from hypnotic control to simple honor-system mindfulness, or from mindful obedience to the denial being part of a larger task. Sometimes spicing things up with new ideas can make an old recipe more delicious than ever.

    Arafin

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