Comments on: Ruined Orgasms http://tease-and-denial.net/femdom/51-ruined-orgasms/ Sensual Tease and Denial Wed, 07 Apr 2010 23:14:47 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Brian Peter http://tease-and-denial.net/femdom/51-ruined-orgasms/comment-page-1/#comment-657 Brian Peter Thu, 18 Feb 2010 04:09:48 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=51#comment-657 I am somewhat disappointed when I accidentally have a ruined orgasm. Thinking does this make me more attentive the next time few times. Definitely if I continue with the tease/deny for additional days I am more careful. More careful can mean I do not get quite as close or it can mean I try to concentrate building more slowly. The more slowly I build the more I can maintain control. I suppose all of that adds up to being more attentive. I am actually in the middle of a tease/deny of myself that started on Saturday. It started off well with the first session on Saturday. I will not going into all the details as I am not sure this is what you want posted here Lady Julia. As I was saying the first session went well but I did not get as close as many times as I had wanted. I continued later that night and on the third time I had the dreaded ruined orgasm. I was disappointed. It all had to do with concentration. I was in to big a hurry to get close 5 more times. I usually have a goal of how many times I want to get close and stop. I did not continue after that and headed of to bed. I have continued with the teasing/denying with the goal of 7 or 8 days. I had a really good 90 minute session on Sunday. Mmmmmmm squirming right now remembering Sunday. I was more attentive. Smiles. I had a nice 30 minute session Monday, missed Tuesday as I did not have time and I did 30 minutes earlier tonight. I am somewhat disappointed when I accidentally have a ruined orgasm. Thinking does this make me more attentive the next time few times. Definitely if I continue with the tease/deny for additional days I am more careful. More careful can mean I do not get quite as close or it can mean I try to concentrate building more slowly. The more slowly I build the more I can maintain control. I suppose all of that adds up to being more attentive.

I am actually in the middle of a tease/deny of myself that started on Saturday. It started off well with the first session on Saturday. I will not going into all the details as I am not sure this is what you want posted here Lady Julia. As I was saying the first session went well but I did not get as close as many times as I had wanted. I continued later that night and on the third time I had the dreaded ruined orgasm. I was disappointed. It all had to do with concentration. I was in to big a hurry to get close 5 more times. I usually have a goal of how many times I want to get close and stop.

I did not continue after that and headed of to bed. I have continued with the teasing/denying with the goal of 7 or 8 days. I had a really good 90 minute session on Sunday. Mmmmmmm squirming right now remembering Sunday. I was more attentive. Smiles. I had a nice 30 minute session Monday, missed Tuesday as I did not have time and I did 30 minutes earlier tonight.

]]> By: Lady Julia http://tease-and-denial.net/femdom/51-ruined-orgasms/comment-page-1/#comment-655 Lady Julia Thu, 18 Feb 2010 02:23:03 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=51#comment-655 Really interesting to read, Brian. Thank you. When you accidentally get too close and ruin things for yourself, does that make you more attentive the next few times? Really interesting to read, Brian. Thank you.

When you accidentally get too close and ruin things for yourself, does that make you more attentive the next few times?

]]> By: Brian Peter http://tease-and-denial.net/femdom/51-ruined-orgasms/comment-page-1/#comment-628 Brian Peter Sat, 13 Feb 2010 03:27:42 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=51#comment-628 I have been thinking about this post of yours Lady Julia quite a bit. My understanding of a ruined orgasm is as wandering outlined on July 5th. I have experienced that while teasing denying myself from time to time. It primarily happens when I am edging and after say 30 to 45 minutes and I lose concentration and get just a little to close and stop all stimulation and fight to not cum and a few little spasms occur and I have a release of some quantity of seed. I find this very disappointing as well as frustrating. Disappointing in that I know the deny portion of the teasing and denying as come to an end. I like to tease/deny myself for typically 7 or 8 days. Frustrating in that I know that the time I have denied myself was kind of wasted because it will not take me an equivalent amount of teasing/denying to get back to that state of soooooo wanting. The ruined orgasm may lack the intense pleasure but it none the less takes off the edge of desire that has built up. So if I were to think of how a ruined orgasm may be used to control one here is how I can imagine it. Obviously cumming would be forbidden without permission. The Domme would be teasing/denying using long session of teasing keeping the sub on edge. The sub knows if he is to eventually get a release he must behave and not cum accidentally. In fighting to not cum he holds off struggling but the Domme gets him sooooooo close that a sew spasms occur like I had happen to myself as I described above. This would obviously be deserving of a punishment of say one week of additional teasing/denying added on or two weeks or what ever the Domme things is appropriate. Maybe even in chastity for that period. Squirms thinking of that. I have been thinking about this post of yours Lady Julia quite a bit. My understanding of a ruined orgasm is as wandering outlined on July 5th. I have experienced that while teasing denying myself from time to time. It primarily happens when I am edging and after say 30 to 45 minutes and I lose concentration and get just a little to close and stop all stimulation and fight to not cum and a few little spasms occur and I have a release of some quantity of seed. I find this very disappointing as well as frustrating. Disappointing in that I know the deny portion of the teasing and denying as come to an end. I like to tease/deny myself for typically 7 or 8 days. Frustrating in that I know that the time I have denied myself was kind of wasted because it will not take me an equivalent amount of teasing/denying to get back to that state of soooooo wanting. The ruined orgasm may lack the intense pleasure but it none the less takes off the edge of desire that has built up.

So if I were to think of how a ruined orgasm may be used to control one here is how I can imagine it. Obviously cumming would be forbidden without permission. The Domme would be teasing/denying using long session of teasing keeping the sub on edge. The sub knows if he is to eventually get a release he must behave and not cum accidentally. In fighting to not cum he holds off struggling but the Domme gets him sooooooo close that a sew spasms occur like I had happen to myself as I described above. This would obviously be deserving of a punishment of say one week of additional teasing/denying added on or two weeks or what ever the Domme things is appropriate. Maybe even in chastity for that period. Squirms thinking of that.

]]> By: Lady Julia http://tease-and-denial.net/femdom/51-ruined-orgasms/comment-page-1/#comment-288 Lady Julia Wed, 13 Jan 2010 09:12:16 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=51#comment-288 Carl, that's not a situation I've seen and I really didn't find anything on the net to explain it. I can imagine why it would have concerned you. Without the unexpected fluid from the rectum, an orgasm without ejaculation is a good thing as it allows the man to experience multiple orgasms :) As for the ruined orgasm... assuming that he enjoys being teased, denied, and more, I am finding the idea of ruined orgasms to be appealing from time to time. There's such a super sexy look of frustration, urgency, and disbelief when a man is interrupted as he's right on the edge of release. I find myself laughing that evil cowgirl laugh sometimes, because I can tell that even though he's experiencing all the things I mentioned, he sooooo likes and wants it - and doesn't want it. Carl, that’s not a situation I’ve seen and I really didn’t find anything on the net to explain it. I can imagine why it would have concerned you. Without the unexpected fluid from the rectum, an orgasm without ejaculation is a good thing as it allows the man to experience multiple orgasms :)

As for the ruined orgasm… assuming that he enjoys being teased, denied, and more, I am finding the idea of ruined orgasms to be appealing from time to time. There’s such a super sexy look of frustration, urgency, and disbelief when a man is interrupted as he’s right on the edge of release. I find myself laughing that evil cowgirl laugh sometimes, because I can tell that even though he’s experiencing all the things I mentioned, he sooooo likes and wants it – and doesn’t want it.

]]> By: Carl http://tease-and-denial.net/femdom/51-ruined-orgasms/comment-page-1/#comment-287 Carl Wed, 13 Jan 2010 07:50:05 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=51#comment-287 More specifically, regarding your question, a ruined orgasm by inflicted pain is not "appealing" in one sense, but as an experience of submission and trying something new, with a trusted Dominant, I'm intrigued enough to try it once. I would like to experience the ruined orgasm by removal of stimulation, and yes, I think it would enhance my sense of a Domme's control over me. More specifically, regarding your question, a ruined orgasm by inflicted pain is not “appealing” in one sense, but as an experience of submission and trying something new, with a trusted Dominant, I’m intrigued enough to try it once.

I would like to experience the ruined orgasm by removal of stimulation, and yes, I think it would enhance my sense of a Domme’s control over me.

]]> By: Carl http://tease-and-denial.net/femdom/51-ruined-orgasms/comment-page-1/#comment-286 Carl Wed, 13 Jan 2010 07:46:21 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=51#comment-286 One time many years ago, I tried to constrict my penis to stifle an orgasm at the point of release, and I felt the sensation of an intense orgasm, without semen coming out my penis. It seemed to escape another way. Not much later, it seemed I passed it through my rectum. I've never read whether this is physiologically possible, or common, or even dangerous, but it freaked me out at the time, and fascinated me somewhat too. I don't know if it really qualified as a ruined orgasm, because I had the intense contractions and pleasureable sensations, but it was definitely an odd one. One time many years ago, I tried to constrict my penis to stifle an orgasm at the point of release, and I felt the sensation of an intense orgasm, without semen coming out my penis. It seemed to escape another way. Not much later, it seemed I passed it through my rectum. I’ve never read whether this is physiologically possible, or common, or even dangerous, but it freaked me out at the time, and fascinated me somewhat too. I don’t know if it really qualified as a ruined orgasm, because I had the intense contractions and pleasureable sensations, but it was definitely an odd one.

]]> By: billy http://tease-and-denial.net/femdom/51-ruined-orgasms/comment-page-1/#comment-90 billy Thu, 30 Jul 2009 20:37:49 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=51#comment-90 i feel it would be an effective tool to use on me that would tighten Her control over me. i feel it would be an effective tool to use on me that would tighten Her control over me.

]]> By: Cayla http://tease-and-denial.net/femdom/51-ruined-orgasms/comment-page-1/#comment-67 Cayla Sun, 19 Jul 2009 11:47:12 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=51#comment-67 I think that that teasing and denial is much better for me when I am brought to nearly to the point of no return and then stop all stimulation. Leave me wanting and deprived. Turns me into a little "puppy". This to me is more effective tool for control. The pain thing is not something I fancy. I think that that teasing and denial is much better for me when I am brought to nearly to the point of no return and then stop all stimulation. Leave me wanting and deprived. Turns me into a little “puppy”. This to me is more effective tool for control. The pain thing is not something I fancy.

]]> By: rex http://tease-and-denial.net/femdom/51-ruined-orgasms/comment-page-1/#comment-65 rex Wed, 15 Jul 2009 17:42:16 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=51#comment-65 I have expierenced this. Basically brought to orgasm and all stimulation stopped at the very first instant of orgasm (the point of no return). The result was ejaculation without orgasm. I wouldn't want it to be the only way I was allowed to cum but it did leave my head in subspace. It was the only time I've been able to return to intercourse without the usual refractory period. The second time I "came" it was delayed which for me was an unusual expierence and the actual orgasm was less profound. I have expierenced this. Basically brought to orgasm and all stimulation stopped at the very first instant of orgasm (the point of no return). The result was ejaculation without orgasm. I wouldn’t want it to be the only way I was allowed to cum but it did leave my head in subspace. It was the only time I’ve been able to return to intercourse without the usual refractory period. The second time I “came” it was delayed which for me was an unusual expierence and the actual orgasm was less profound.

]]> By: Arafin http://tease-and-denial.net/femdom/51-ruined-orgasms/comment-page-1/#comment-46 Arafin Mon, 06 Jul 2009 07:34:37 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=51#comment-46 What this brought to mind for some reason was not “ruined” orgasms as you described, but tantric control of sexual release in order to heighten and prolong the pleasure. While pulling the plug on a good orgasm demonstrates some control of the Dom/me over the sub, tantric control techniques managed by the Dom/me would be able to far surpass this. Plain teasing can be fun, but sometimes skillful redirection of focus is better. Even simple hypnotic tease and denial seems as if it would be more fun than constricting away the rush of pleasure. But, to each their own. Arafin What this brought to mind for some reason was not “ruined” orgasms as you described, but tantric control of sexual release in order to heighten and prolong the pleasure. While pulling the plug on a good orgasm demonstrates some control of the Dom/me over the sub, tantric control techniques managed by the Dom/me would be able to far surpass this. Plain teasing can be fun, but sometimes skillful redirection of focus is better. Even simple hypnotic tease and denial seems as if it would be more fun than constricting away the rush of pleasure. But, to each their own.

Arafin

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