Comments on: What is a Keyholder? http://tease-and-denial.net/chastity/98-what-is-a-key-holder/ Sensual Tease and Denial Wed, 07 Apr 2010 23:14:47 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Lady Julia http://tease-and-denial.net/chastity/98-what-is-a-key-holder/comment-page-1/#comment-619 Lady Julia Fri, 12 Feb 2010 07:31:41 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=98#comment-619 That's good, Patrick :) In many ways that's what you are doing with the Queen of Hearts Experience, isn't it? That’s good, Patrick :) In many ways that’s what you are doing with the Queen of Hearts Experience, isn’t it?

]]> By: patrick http://tease-and-denial.net/chastity/98-what-is-a-key-holder/comment-page-1/#comment-617 patrick Thu, 11 Feb 2010 17:44:53 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=98#comment-617 Emotional Keyholder is a great idea. i could be trusted in that situation. Emotional Keyholder is a great idea. i could be trusted in that situation.

]]> By: scott http://tease-and-denial.net/chastity/98-what-is-a-key-holder/comment-page-1/#comment-248 scott Mon, 04 Jan 2010 21:22:08 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=98#comment-248 I like the idea of chasity as long as it is control by a responsible Mistress / Lady! I love to be submissive and order to do as Mistress commands. As far as orgasm....the notion of it being pulled out of me....as one would pull a sword from my groin....the sword placed there by the Lady! mmmmmmmm...... I like the idea of chasity as long as it is control by a responsible Mistress / Lady! I love to be submissive and order to do as Mistress commands. As far as orgasm….the notion of it being pulled out of me….as one would pull a sword from my groin….the sword placed there by the Lady! mmmmmmmm……

]]> By: Lady Julia http://tease-and-denial.net/chastity/98-what-is-a-key-holder/comment-page-1/#comment-71 Lady Julia Thu, 23 Jul 2009 23:58:36 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=98#comment-71 Brad asked, "I wouldn’t care what you called it but I would love to have someone do it for me. Have you ever thought about doing it for other people and charging for it?" No, I haven't and won't. I do what I do because it is fun, I don't want to make it work. Brad asked, “I wouldn’t care what you called it but I would love to have someone do it for me. Have you ever thought about doing it for other people and charging for it?”

No, I haven’t and won’t. I do what I do because it is fun, I don’t want to make it work.

]]> By: Lady Julia http://tease-and-denial.net/chastity/98-what-is-a-key-holder/comment-page-1/#comment-70 Lady Julia Thu, 23 Jul 2009 23:56:34 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=98#comment-70 Mike, I am trying to find a way to enable email notifications of comments. It was a feature built in to one of my other blogs, but it's not for this one. Do you use a RSS reader like google reader? There is a way to see the comments via RSS, but I do not know yet what you would input into the reader. I have to ask my website guru friend. Mike, I am trying to find a way to enable email notifications of comments. It was a feature built in to one of my other blogs, but it’s not for this one.

Do you use a RSS reader like google reader? There is a way to see the comments via RSS, but I do not know yet what you would input into the reader. I have to ask my website guru friend.

]]> By: Oakwillow http://tease-and-denial.net/chastity/98-what-is-a-key-holder/comment-page-1/#comment-68 Oakwillow Sun, 19 Jul 2009 21:26:46 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=98#comment-68 The photo you displayed and the basic idea I find extremely exciting /arousing. However whether it would work in the long term with me would probably depend on how I was controlled and given treats /rewards etc! The photo you displayed and the basic idea I find extremely exciting /arousing. However whether it would work in the long term with me would probably depend on how I was controlled and given treats /rewards etc!

]]> By: Mike http://tease-and-denial.net/chastity/98-what-is-a-key-holder/comment-page-1/#comment-64 Mike Wed, 15 Jul 2009 12:13:43 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=98#comment-64 Is there a way to have responses sent to email? I don't seem to see a control for that. Is there a way to have responses sent to email? I don’t seem to see a control for that.

]]> By: lostsoul http://tease-and-denial.net/chastity/98-what-is-a-key-holder/comment-page-1/#comment-63 lostsoul Wed, 15 Jul 2009 10:39:30 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=98#comment-63 Truely a delicious delima , should I or shouldn't I .. do You trust me or better still can I trust You ... all these thought bubble to the surface when considering this interesting topic, perhaps in response to Arafin's reply we consider "What if" .. it isn't the issue of the Dominant wanting to control one's orgasms and touching through the use of a device as much as She/He were actually more interested in the submissive's trust in the Dominant following through on Their side of the proposed "control offer" .. will They return your submitted offering at the agreed upon time etc ... trust is a double edged sword in a D/s relationship and things aren't always as they first appear. I agree with mikecb in the everyday logistics of wearing a chastity device, the potential for great humiliation, the ever constant reminder of your submission through the wearing of the device itself .. there are so many aspects to consider aside from the trust aspect .. and certainly we all could get out of most devices if we wanted, but at what cost .. much like the Emotional Keyholder approach trust is paramont without it I feel it's all a moot exercise, but a delicious one to consider. Truely a delicious delima , should I or shouldn’t I .. do You trust me or better still can I trust You … all these thought bubble to the surface when considering this interesting topic, perhaps in response to Arafin’s reply we consider “What if” .. it isn’t the issue of the Dominant wanting to control one’s orgasms and touching through the use of a device as much as She/He were actually more interested in the submissive’s trust in the Dominant following through on Their side of the proposed “control offer” .. will They return your submitted offering at the agreed upon time etc … trust is a double edged sword in a D/s relationship and things aren’t always as they first appear. I agree with mikecb in the everyday logistics of wearing a chastity device, the potential for great humiliation, the ever constant reminder of your submission through the wearing of the device itself .. there are so many aspects to consider aside from the trust aspect .. and certainly we all could get out of most devices if we wanted, but at what cost .. much like the Emotional Keyholder approach trust is paramont without it I feel it’s all a moot exercise, but a delicious one to consider.

]]> By: Mike http://tease-and-denial.net/chastity/98-what-is-a-key-holder/comment-page-1/#comment-62 Mike Tue, 14 Jul 2009 16:56:07 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=98#comment-62 I find the idea of an emotional key holder very intriguing. I agree with Arafin that, for me, devices imply lack of trust. I am not saying anything against people who use them. Whatever works for you is great. I suspect that people who use devices also do so for other reasons than the trust issues. I also think that part of developing as a person is making mistakes. That is how we learn and grow. Developing as a person is acknowledging flaws in oneself and endeavoring to improve. Using a device does not give you that opportunity. The key-holder approach for weight loss is very intriguing. I find the idea of an emotional key holder very intriguing. I agree with Arafin that, for me, devices imply lack of trust. I am not saying anything against people who use them. Whatever works for you is great. I suspect that people who use devices also do so for other reasons than the trust issues.

I also think that part of developing as a person is making mistakes. That is how we learn and grow. Developing as a person is acknowledging flaws in oneself and endeavoring to improve. Using a device does not give you that opportunity.

The key-holder approach for weight loss is very intriguing.

]]> By: mikecb http://tease-and-denial.net/chastity/98-what-is-a-key-holder/comment-page-1/#comment-61 mikecb Tue, 14 Jul 2009 16:29:35 +0000 http://tease-and-denial.net/?p=98#comment-61 Hmm. I've mentioned before that a major draw of chastity, for me, is the bondage aspect of it. I think the issues of dealing with day to day life, secured in a device, add a whole dimension to chastity play that Emotional Keyholding does not touch upon. It's one thing to promise my KH that I will not masturbate. It's quite another to be standing in a locker room, trying to conceal myself while changing, or sitting to pee in the bathroom, wondering if any of my coworkers have noticed I never use the urinal. Perhaps it rubs some humiliation buttons for me, too. I don't know. Another part of me says that there isn't a chastity device made that I can't defeat in 10 minutes. I own a dremel tool. Consequently, I don't get off on the notion that it's "impossible" for me to get out, though I know a lot of guys do. I don't feel "trapped" in a chastity device. For me, it's just difficult or impossible to orgasm without detection, since the device would be damaged. So, perhaps "impossible to cheat without detection" is the best it gets, in my mind. I do think a lot of guys find the notion of Emotional Keyholding compelling, whether they know it or not. There are a LOT of CB-xxxx devices out there, and there are few men that these things actually WORK for. Most men can pull out if they want to. They just don't want to. Just in the last week, I've read several blogs by men who say either "I've never tried, I don't want to know" or "I can pull out, but I choose not to". I think the guys in those situations are already enjoying Emotional Keyholding. The device is more of a symbol, or perhaps they are also enjoying the bondage aspects as I do. mikecb Hmm. I’ve mentioned before that a major draw of chastity, for me, is the bondage aspect of it. I think the issues of dealing with day to day life, secured in a device, add a whole dimension to chastity play that Emotional Keyholding does not touch upon. It’s one thing to promise my KH that I will not masturbate. It’s quite another to be standing in a locker room, trying to conceal myself while changing, or sitting to pee in the bathroom, wondering if any of my coworkers have noticed I never use the urinal. Perhaps it rubs some humiliation buttons for me, too. I don’t know.

Another part of me says that there isn’t a chastity device made that I can’t defeat in 10 minutes. I own a dremel tool. Consequently, I don’t get off on the notion that it’s “impossible” for me to get out, though I know a lot of guys do. I don’t feel “trapped” in a chastity device. For me, it’s just difficult or impossible to orgasm without detection, since the device would be damaged. So, perhaps “impossible to cheat without detection” is the best it gets, in my mind.

I do think a lot of guys find the notion of Emotional Keyholding compelling, whether they know it or not. There are a LOT of CB-xxxx devices out there, and there are few men that these things actually WORK for. Most men can pull out if they want to. They just don’t want to. Just in the last week, I’ve read several blogs by men who say either “I’ve never tried, I don’t want to know” or “I can pull out, but I choose not to”. I think the guys in those situations are already enjoying Emotional Keyholding. The device is more of a symbol, or perhaps they are also enjoying the bondage aspects as I do.

mikecb

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