A ruined orgasm is pretty much exactly as it sounds.  In femdom, male submissive terms, the man would be brought right to the edge and then his orgasm ruined in some way, perhaps via the infliction of non-erotic pain.  Perhaps she may tease and entice, leading him to think he will be allowed a glorious release at the end of a long period of denial, only to ruin it through constriction as he ejaculates.  His body releases the fluids, but he receives no psychological pleasure from it.

The purpose of the ruined orgasm is to demonstrate the Domme’s control over her submissive.  (Perhaps a little sadism could be involved as well?)

Is this something that appeals to you?  Do you think it would an effective tool for enhancing her control over you?

(I freely admit I have never done this.  I’ve read a bit about it and find myself curious.  If you’ve experienced this and can offer a broader or more complete explanation, please do.)

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