Is it evil to deny someone release, not even allowing touching, only to do everything possible (except touching them) to get them to do both? ;)

I wonder how long a man could last with a steady stream of teasing…  surely even if they obeyed, there would be some serious begging involved..

Yes, yes, strictly rhetorical questions. I’m just finding myself in that sort of mood…

~~~~~~~

Desperate Pleas is a post from: The Silken Tease (c) 2010 Lady Julia. If you enjoyed this post or have something to add, please leave a comment. Remember, feedback typically encourages writers to write more ;)

A ruined orgasm is pretty much exactly as it sounds.  In femdom, male submissive terms, the man would be brought right to the edge and then his orgasm ruined in some way, perhaps via the infliction of non-erotic pain.  Perhaps she may tease and entice, leading him to think he will be allowed a glorious release at the end of a long period of denial, only to ruin it through constriction as he ejaculates.  His body releases the fluids, but he receives no psychological pleasure from it.

The purpose of the ruined orgasm is to demonstrate the Domme’s control over her submissive.  (Perhaps a little sadism could be involved as well?)

Is this something that appeals to you?  Do you think it would an effective tool for enhancing her control over you?

(I freely admit I have never done this.  I’ve read a bit about it and find myself curious.  If you’ve experienced this and can offer a broader or more complete explanation, please do.)

~~~~~~~

Ruined Orgasms is a post from: The Silken Tease (c) 2010 Lady Julia. If you enjoyed this post or have something to add, please leave a comment. Remember, feedback typically encourages writers to write more ;)

I’ve just posted a story by kurius on my Femdom Fantasies site.  As The Ultimate Gift deals with tease, denial, and chastity devices, I thought you might find it of interest :)

Thank you, kurius, for writing this for me.

~~~~~~~

The Ultimate Gift is a post from: The Silken Tease (c) 2010 Lady Julia. If you enjoyed this post or have something to add, please leave a comment. Remember, feedback typically encourages writers to write more ;)

I’m in the bedroom. I know you’re tired so come upstairs and sit with me awhile.

(Smiles) – I like watching your eyes as you enter the room and take in my apparel. I bought this r*d silk dressing gown and the red lace panties today while I was out shopping for other more necessary things. Even though my budget is a little tight I thought I deserved a reward after working so hard lately. Perhaps in this instance, my reward is your reward, too ;)

No, don’t speak. Your face is so expressive, I don’t need to hear the words. You love how the soft silk clings to my body and in your mind you are already sliding your hands over the curves you know so well.

Stand very still. It’s time to relieve yourself of all those confining clothes. While you do look very handsome, I prefer you naked. My quickened breathing must surely convey my excitement and appreciation for your body as your clothing is slowly removed and drifts to the floor.

I do love your body. I know you protest at times that it is not “perfect”. I adore every part of you just as you are. I want to tell you again that I often fantasize about all the ways I can use your body. Ways that are pleasurable for both of us. I suspect it may excite you just a little to know I often touch myself when fantasizing about your oh so sexy body.

You’re surprised? Don’t be. My most intense masturbation orgasms come when I am thinking of you.

In fact, if I were to permit you to, you would be able to feel how wet I am right now – all from standing next to you and undressing you. If I wanted, my body would be ready for you to slide inside right away. That’s how much you excite me.

But.. that isn’t what I want. At least not for now.

I’m sorry, I cannot help but to laugh in that wicked way you say I do. Watching your face as I speak is like seeing my words performed in a play. Your arousal, your desire, your disappointment at the realization that you are not about to enter me, all quite apparent.

Sit back on the chair, my pet. Rest your hands on the chair arms. Yes, that’s right.

Feel the silken bonds wrap around your wrists and ankles. I know they are only loosely wrapped, but you really don’t wish to move, do you? They’re only there to remind you that the real power in this situation comes from me – my words, my actions – my ability to control you so easily. And I am controlling you, aren’t I?

I do so enjoy that.

Now.. I’m going to sit back and consider all the deliciously exciting things I can do with you. You be a good boy and sit there til I’m ready.

~~~~~~~

Welcome Home is a post from: The Silken Tease (c) 2010 Lady Julia. If you enjoyed this post or have something to add, please leave a comment. Remember, feedback typically encourages writers to write more ;)

I received a comment on my main blog from a woman who said she was new to the idea of dominating her partner and wanted a suggestion for an uncomplicated yet powerful ritual that she could establish.

The Femdom ritual is amazingly strong and exciting .  The act draws the submissive’s mind to a place established by his Domme while reinforcing her control over him and his submission to her.   If established to do so, these rituals can be observed and the reminder of that bond can be given whether the Domme is present or not.  Clearly this would work well if the couple is not together every day.  And.. it’s just fun :)

Many people have elaborate rituals that include a lot of really kinky things.  When I read about them, I always find them very exciting, but they are a bit complicated in the really busy world that is my life.  It’s easier for me and it seems more powerful for him if I tie the ritual to an every day activity like showering or bathing.

Imagine giving or being given these instructions:

Daily, I want you to stand naked in front of a mirror and allow your eyes to wander over your body.  Consider how much I love your body,  touching it and teasing it, using it in whatever way I see fit because it’s mine – mine because you’ve surrendered control of your body’s sexual pleasure to me.  See what I see.. a sexy, strong man who allows me to use him as my erotic toy.

After a few moments contemplation, step into the bath or shower, turn on the water, soap up your hands and run them over the body that I control.  Imagine how wonderful it feels for me to control that body.. to control your cock… yes, then touch your cock, tease it as I would if I were there… know how much I love controlling your pleasuring… then when you are well and truly excited, stop.

Mmm… such lovely tease and denial on a daily basis.  Just thinking about it now excites me so much – knowing how deeply he has surrendered, how much I love his body, and how eager I am to touch and tease him in person.

I wonder how long it would be before he was begging for release? Smiles – it certainly wouldn’t take long before I was ordering him to his knees…

~ Lady Julia

~~~~~~~

Femdom Rituals: Wet, Soapy, Naked Bodies is a post from: The Silken Tease (c) 2010 Lady Julia. If you enjoyed this post or have something to add, please leave a comment. Remember, feedback typically encourages writers to write more ;)