Tom Allen has just published a sizzling hot tease, denial, and chastity story that I thought some of you would enjoy. Armed with the ability to create believable characters and an accuracy of description that must surely stem from many “been there, done that” moments, Tom always creates a fine read.

~~~~~~~

Tease, Denial, Chastity and More is a post from: The Silken Tease (c) 2010 Lady Julia. If you enjoyed this post or have something to add, please leave a comment. Remember, feedback typically encourages writers to write more ;)

From Outside Vanilla:

Post title: Help! Need strength

Am cracking, need to cum, not allowed.

Times like this I should be locked. Hard to resist!

So succinct, so desperate, so incredibly hot! I love that he is feeling tortured for his wife but he is still willing to obey. What a good boy ;)

~~~~~~~

The Best Post I’ve Seen on a Blog in a Long Time is a post from: The Silken Tease (c) 2010 Lady Julia. If you enjoyed this post or have something to add, please leave a comment. Remember, feedback typically encourages writers to write more ;)

What’s the longest period of time you have voluntarily gone without touching yourself for pleasure?  What about without ejaculating?  (Exclude times of illness or stress.)  How long do you think you *could* go if asked to do so by a Domme?  One more.. how long would you last if she were actively teasing you?

Now.. what would motivate you to go past the longest period of time you think you could handle? ;)

(You may answer these questions anonymously if you would like.  Just enter “anonymous” in the name field and anonymous@ladyjulia.net as your email address.)

~~~~~~~

How Long… is a post from: The Silken Tease (c) 2010 Lady Julia. If you enjoyed this post or have something to add, please leave a comment. Remember, feedback typically encourages writers to write more ;)

In D/s circles, a key holder is the person who holds the key(s) to the submissive’s chastity device.  Sometimes this position is held by the individual’s partner but it is also a service provided by some professional dominants.  The keyholder maintains possession of the key until either an agreed upon date or, if the submissive has surrendered the choice to the Domme, until a time of her choosing.

I haven’t really heard anyone label it as such, but I like to consider someone who agrees to take control of the submissive’s masturbation and orgasm activities sans a chastity device as an “emotional keyholder”.  I know this is simply basic orgasm control, but I quite like the thought of identifying the Domme as the Key Holder because it provides a mental image of sorts for the subconscious to latch onto.  I have found the deliberate choice of words and images to be very powerful in many situations, but most especially in a Femdom, Female Led Relationship situation.

For several years now I have served as this type of keyholder for a friend who lives quite some distance from me.  I say when, where, if, and how he touches and releases as well as controlling his porn and erotic literature habits.  Many people proclaim a man cannot be trusted in a situation like this, however what I have found is that, for this man at least, submitting is more important and more exciting than masturbation and orgasm alone.  I’m not saying masturbation and orgasm isn’t good when doing so without submission, but in his case, he says it is well worth the wait thanks to that delicious feeling of control.

For about six months I did something similar with a friend in association with a weight loss program.  In this situation he had to earn the right to touch and to release by meeting criteria I established regarding pounds lost, calories consumed, and exercise performed.  I’m pleased to say I have photographic evidence of how compliant he was (no, not that kind of evidence ;)  – before and after photos revealing how much weight he lost).  Again, feeling that area of his life controlled was more important to him than deciding if, when, how, and where for himself.

An emotional keyholder situation is quite easy to establish for anyone who is interested in a simple form of dominance.  Simple to establish – not simple in its meaning.  It’s quite the powerful tool when used between two people who discuss and agree upon the parameters and who trust one another to really strive to make it work.

What are your thoughts about the concept of “emotional keyholder”?  Do you think that sort of phraseology / imagery would have any impact on you or is the situation itself more than enough?

And.. out of curiosity, do you think that you could be trusted to surrender complete control of your masturbation and orgasm activities if you were not in a device?

~~~~~~~

What is a Keyholder? is a post from: The Silken Tease (c) 2010 Lady Julia. If you enjoyed this post or have something to add, please leave a comment. Remember, feedback typically encourages writers to write more ;)

I’ve just posted a story by kurius on my Femdom Fantasies site.  As The Ultimate Gift deals with tease, denial, and chastity devices, I thought you might find it of interest :)

Thank you, kurius, for writing this for me.

~~~~~~~

The Ultimate Gift is a post from: The Silken Tease (c) 2010 Lady Julia. If you enjoyed this post or have something to add, please leave a comment. Remember, feedback typically encourages writers to write more ;)