New Year’s Eve is upon us. It’s time to confess.. have you been a good boy this year?
You have? Then tell me.. what have you done in the last month to please the lady in your life (or a lady in your life)? Christmas pleasures do not count. Go ahead, jot them down. There’s a good boy. Now.. did you do as many things for her as you could have?
Of course you should do everything you can to please your lady simply because you care for her. Sometimes, however, you may require a bit of prompting and training. She could spank you, deny you, ignore you – any number of things.
What if for a period of time, your touching and orgasms were tied to your attempts to please? I think a grading scale or a point system would be quite interesting…
Brings me flowers – may touch for pleasure for five minutes. No release.
Brings me a strawberry cheesequake blizzard – may tease for ten minutes. Sorry, no release.
Brings me chocolate – may tease til you’re right on the edge. The niceness of the chocolate will determine whether or not you come. Godiva chocolate.. well.. I’ll think about it ;)
In all seriousness, I do think this could be a fun activity and quite the effective training tool (simple behavior modification at it’s most interesting ;) Some things earn no points. These are the things you do as a matter of course because she has the right to expect them of you. The things that require active submission – things you do on your own without prompting – would carry the most value. Extra tasks you are asked to do would receive their fair share as well. Bonus points for every orgasm she has as a result of your attention ;) At the end of a day or a week she would evaluate your efforts, determine your points, and allow your reward.
Of course, as the Domme, she would reserve the right to subtract points at will. Can’t allow you to get too confident or forget who’s really in charge ;)
You and Your ideas are just DELICIOUS!!!
It is good to see a new post here as well, Lady Julia. T&D is certainly a button-pusher for me, but when you combine it with the word “training” my meter is pinned (no, that is not a euphemism, just a metaphor). As easily as the typical male is to control via his pleasure pathways (and knowing he is being controlled that way only heightens the effect)*, I wonder if someone who responds positively to denial would be as “trainable” that way. Of course, having never trained a man, I defer to your superior knowledge!
*I recognize the risk in projecting my reactions onto others.
The amount of points required for release may be so high that he won’t achieve orgasm for weeks or even months. Of course during this time she would be teasing him and doing all the other things she does to demonstrate her control and to ensure she is getting what she wants from the situation as well.
I think most things work – it’s all in what you say and how you say it ;)
Thank you, Web :)
Yes, well with weeks or months involved (teasing, etc. all along) I imagine it would be quite motivating and well suited to training behavior. Thank you for putting it in the right perspective.
Hmmmm…..have I been a good boy! Sorry to say that I have not! Although I am new to lady Julia I wish to express my sincere desire to follow Lady Commands!
But being a good boy —- NO! For Lady Julia —- YES!
As to how remains to be seen for I am on the prowl! For those who unsuspecting my intentions! Those who are not submissive nor dominant…while Searching for the mistress of my dreams.